Beareth All Things

Posted by on Jan 1, 2012

Beareth All Things

“Beareth All Things”

Scripture Text:  1 Corinthians 13:7

By Pastor Mike Withem
First Baptist Church
Ranson, West Virginia


A. (Illus.- A man decided one day to show his wife how much he loved her, and so before going home from work, he stopped by the gym, where he showered, shaved, and put on some choice cologne. Upon leaving the gym he stopped by the florist and bought his wife a beautiful bouquet of flowers. He then walked up to his front door and knocked. When his wife answered the door and saw him standing there, all decked out with the bouquet of flowers in hand, she said, “Oh no! This has been a terrible day! First I had to take Billy to the emergency room and get stitches in his leg, then your mother called and said she’s coming for two weeks, then the washing machine broke, and now this! You come home drunk!”)
1. While this man’s motives were certainly honorable, he might have chosen a better way to show his wife how much he loved her.
2. How does a man show his wife that he loves her, or how does a wife show her husband that she loves him?
3. As we have already seen in this current sermon series, the answer is found in 1 Corinthians 13, a chapter in God’s Word that has come to be called “The LOVE Chapter.”

B. Now, what have we learned thus far.
1. First of all, we learned that to love your spouse means to be PATIENT with them, willing to endure their many imperfections. (“Charity suffereth long,”)
2. To love your spouse also means to be SATISFIED with them, not wishing that you were married to anyone else. (“charity envieth not;”)
3. To love your spouse also means to be HUMBLE toward them, willing to admit it when you are wrong and to humbly seek their forgiveness. (“charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,”)
4. To love your spouse also means to be MANNERLY towards them, showing them the same common courtesies that you would show a stranger. (“Charity…Doth not behave itself unseemly,”)
5. To love your spouse also means to UNSELFISH, putting their needs and their desires before your own. (Charity…seeketh not her own,”)
6. And then last of all, we learned that to love your spouse means to be TRUSTING of them, not suspicious, not ascribing to them evil motives or evil intentions. (Charity…thinketh no evil;”)

C. This morning, I want us to continue our study of 1 Corinthians 13, focusing all of our attention on Vrs. 7.
1. Notice that verse again, “Charity…Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.”
2. From this verse we can learn at least three things.
3. First of all, we can learn that true love is…

I. Confidential.

A. Notice how Vrs. 7 begins, it says “Charity…Beareth all things,”
1. Now the word translated “beareth” here does not mean what you may think it means.
2. It is translated from a Greek word (stego) that literally means “to roof over” or “to cover with silence.”
3. One translation reads like this, “love quietly covers all things.” (MKJV)
4. Another translation reads like this, love “knows how to be silent.” (WNT)
5. And so, when Paul said that love “beareth all things,” he meant that love not only holds up under the most difficult of  circumstances, but it does so QUIETLY.
6. In other words, it does so without broadcasting the shortcomings and failures of those whom we love for all the world to hear!

B. Solomon put it like this in Prov. 10:12, “Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.”
1. And then again in Prov. 17:9, “He that covereth a transgression seeketh love;”
2. I love the way that the apostle Peter said it in 1 Pet. 4:8, “And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.”

C. One of the problems that I see in some marriages today is that there is little or no confidentiality.
1. For example, husbands who get with their “buddies” at work and talk about their wive’s shortcomings.
2. Or wives who get with their little “gossip groups” during the day and talk about the shortcomings of their husbands.
3. Listen, fellows, if you really love your wife, you won’t broadcast her shortcomings to the whole world, and, ladies, if you really love your husband, you won’t do it either.
4. (Illus.- We’ve all heard the expression, “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.” While I most certainly don’t agree with that, I do believe that what happens at HOME between a husband and his wife should stay at home, what happens in the BEDROOM should stay in the bedroom!)
5. (Illus.- Even the laws of man recognize the importance of this principle. Have you ever heard of the “marital communications privilege”? Also called the “husband-wife privilege,” it is a law that protects the privacy of communications between a man and his wife. This is why in a court of law, a married person cannot be compelled to testify about private conversations that they have had with their husband or wife.)
6. And so, one of the problems that I see in some marriages today is a lack of confidentiality.

D. But someone says, “Pastor, you don’t know my spouse! You don’t know what I have to put up with on a daily basis! If I don’t talk to someone about what I’m dealing with, I’ll go crazy.”
1. Well, first of all, you WON’T go crazy.
2. Secondly, if you MUST talk to someone, then talk to God; after all, He is the ONLY One Who has the ability to help change your situation (make it better).
3. Talking to your “buddies” is not going to make things better.
4. Talking to your local “gossip group” during the day is not going to make things better.
5. In fact, when your spouse finds out what you are doing, it will only make things WORSE!

E. And so, love is confidential.
1. By the way, if you violate your spouses’ privacy, you have also violated their trust, and this is inexcusable!
2. Notice, also, that true love is…

II. Optimistic.

A. Notice again our text, it says that love “…believeth all things, hopeth all things,” (1 Cor. 13:7)
1. In other words, love is UP-BEAT, it is OPTIMISTIC, it is FULL OF HOPE.
2. True love says, “I believe in my husband (wife), I believe in our marriage, and I am absolutely confident that not only are we going to make it, but good days are ahead for us.”
B. (Illus.- I don’t do a lot of personal marriage counseling, but I have done enough to know that when couples seek counseling, they usually fall into one of two categories. First of all, there are those couples who come to you and, even though they are having problems, they are, at least, somewhat optimistic about the future. Their attitude is, “Yes, we have problems, but we believe in each other and we believe in our marriage and we are confident that we will be able to work things out.” On the other hand, there are those couples who come to you and it is very clear that they have pretty much given up hope. Their attitude is, “We are here and we will listen to what you have to say, but, honestly, pastor, this is a waste of your time and ours.” They’ve given up on each other, they’ve given up on their marriage, and they’ve given up hope. I bet you can guess which couples are most likely to benefit from the counseling.)

C. Now don’t misunderstand what I am saying.
1. I’m not talking about optimism that has no real basis.
2. (Illus.- Someone asked me once, “Pastor, do you believe in the “power of positive thinking”? If you are talking about optimism that has no real basis, my answer is, “No.” That’s what the religion of Humanism teaches. However, if you are talking about an optimism that is based on GOD’S ABILITY to change people and to heal marriages, my answer is, “Yes.”)
3. I love what Paul wrote in Phil. 4:13, he said, “I can do all things because I have a positive attitude!”
4. Did I quote that right?
5. No, I didn’t, what he actually said was, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

D. Listen to me, this morning.
1. It doesn’t matter how bad your marriage is.
2. It doesn’t matter what problems you are facing.
3. It doesn’t matter how hopeless things may appear at this moment.
4. If you will continue to believe in each other, if you will not give up on your marriage, and, most of all, if you will look to God for His wisdom and His strength, there is hope for any marriage!
5. While you can’t do it on your own, with God’s help, you can do it.
6. Notice Paul’s words in 2 Cor. 3:5, “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God;”

E. And so, true love is optimistic. Notice, finally this morning, that true love is…

III. Lasting.

A. What did Paul say in our text?
1. He said that love “…endureth all things.” (1 Cor. 13:7)
2. In other words, true love PERSEVERES!
3. It doesn’t quit.
4. It doesn’t give up.
5. It doesn’t surrender.

B. I love the way that Paul says it in 1 Cor. 13:8, “Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.” (But “Charity never faileth:”)

C. (Illus.- Someone asked me once, “With the divorce rate, even among professing Christians, around 50%, how do you explain those rare cases where couples remain married for 50, 60 or even 70 years? How do you explain that?” That’s an easy one, “It’s because they truly LOVE one another!”)

D. (Illus.- Some of you probably remember the comedian Jack Kublesky. He was from Waukegan, Illinois and passed away many years ago. His professional name was Jack Benny. When Jack was a young man, he was working in the same studio as a young lady named Mary whom he wanted to date. He thought she was beautiful, but he was too shy and embarrassed to ask her out. He couldn’t get up the courage or the nerve so he started sending a single, red rose to her desk with no note attached to the rose.

Every day she received the red rose. Finally one day, she asked the delivery man who was sending her the roses. He said a guy named Jack who worked in the same studio. She found out who he was. Finally they began talking and Jack asked her out for a date. She thought that after they started dating the roses would stop. But they didn’t. They kept coming…a single rose every day.

They were engaged and Mary thought the roses would stop. But they didn’t stop. They even kept coming after they were married. Every day a single rose would show up for Mrs. Benny.

After five years, and ten years, and decades later a single red rose continued to show up. Jack Benny died. The day after the funeral, a single rose showed up for Mrs. Benny. After several days Mrs. Benny went to the florist and said, “I don’t know if you realize this or not, but Mr. Benny passed away. I know it is kind of you, but you don’t need to do this any longer.” The florist responded, “Mrs. Benny, you don’t understand. Jack made provisions years ago to provide you a single red rose every day you are alive.”)
1. Now you may not be financially able to send your wife a rose every day of her life, but that’s the kind of love that you should have for her.
2. And, ladies, that’s the kind of love that you should have for your husbands, a love that NEVER ENDS.


A. What have we learned about love, this morning?
1. Love is CONFIDENTIAL. (It not only bears up under the most difficult of  circumstances, but it does so QUIETLY, without broadcasting the shortcomings and failures of those whom we love for all the world to hear!)
2. Love is also OPTIMISTIC. (It is both up-beat and full of hope. It says, says, “I believe in my husband (wife), I believe in our marriage, and I am absolutely confident that not only are we going to make it, but good days are ahead for us.”)
3. Love is LASTING. (It perseveres. It doesn’t quit. It doesn’t give up. It doesn’t surrender. It says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me.”)

B. Fellows, is this the way that you love your wives?
1. Ladies, is this the way that you love your husbands?
2. Remember, now, love is a choice.