Keepers At Home

Posted by on Jan 29, 2012

Keepers At Home

“Keepers At Home”

MP3 Version: “Keepers At Home

Scripture Text: Titus 2:5

By Pastor Mike Withem
First Baptist Church
Ranson, West Virginia


A. Now before I say anything else this morning, I want to make something very clear.
1. It is NOT my intent to bash, or to slam, or to criticize, or to scold any wife who happens to work outside of the home (in other words, who is not a full-time homemaker).
2. I realize that today’s world is very different from the world in which June Cleaver lived.
3. I also realize that these are very difficult times in which we now live, and many wives are absolutely convinced that they have no choice but to work outside of the home.
4. And so, believe me when I say that I understand both of these things, and I am truly sympathetic with wives who feel themselves being torn between being a homemaker and helping to pay the bills.
5. However, at the same time, I have an OBLIGATION to tell you what the Bible says, without watering it down or trying to explain it away.
6. This is why I would ask you to remember, this morning, that I am just the MESSENGER, and if you are bothered (convicted) by what GOD says in His Word, please don’t take it out on me, but rather take it up WITH HIM.

B. Now, let’s look at our text.
1. Paul is giving instructions to various groups of believers.
2. First of all, he instructs the “aged men” to “…sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.” (Vrs. 2)
3. He then instructs the “aged women” to be “…in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;” (Vrs. 3)
4. Now after instructing the “aged men” as well as the “aged women,” Paul then gives some instructions to the “young women” within the church.
5. It’s important to note here that these instructions are intended specifically for young WIVES and young MOTHERS (mothers with young children).
6. We know that because in Vrs. 4 Paul admonishes them to “love their husbands” and “to love their children.”

C. Now what instructions does Paul give here to both “young wives” and “young mothers”?
1. In addition to instructing them to “love their husbands” and “love their children,” he also instructs them “To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” (Tit. 2:5)
2. Now because we are limited in time, this morning, I want us to focus our attention on just one phrase in this verse, the phrase, “…keepers at home.”
3. First of all, I want us to consider the…

I. Meaning Of This Phrase.

A. The phrase is actually translated from one Greek word (oikouros), which happens to be a compound word.
1. Part of the word (oik) means “household,” which includes not only the house itself, but also those who live within the house (the family).
2. The other part of the word (ouros) means “guardian” or “overseer.”
3. And so, the phrase “keepers at home” means “overseer of the household.”
4. Of course, it doesn’t mean someone who is TOTALLY confined to the house or someone who NEVER leaves home.
5. (Illus.- I’ve known a few husbands, over the years, who preferred that their wives never leave the house, and they would get upset every time they did. I asked one of them once, “Why are you so mean to your wife?” He said, “What do you mean, preacher?” I said, “You keep her locked up like she’s a prisoner.” He then told me this, he said, “Preacher, the Bible says that the wife should stay at home.”)
6. Well, first of all, the Bible does NOT say that the wife should stay at home, but rather that she should be “a keeper at home.”
7. And secondly, what that simply means is that she has the responsibility of overseeing the affairs of her household.

B. A few weeks ago I brought a message on the PRIMARY role of the wife in marriage.
1. As we saw from Gen. 2:18, a wife’s primary role is to be a “help meet” for her husband (her husband’s helper).
2. Well, that is her primary role, but a wife also has a SECONDARY role, and that is to be the overseer of her household.
3. This, of course, includes the care and raising of the children, that is if there are children.
4. Now let me stop here and say that the role of overseer of the household is an extremely IMPORTANT role.
5. Not only is it an important role, it is also a very DEMANDING and TIME CONSUMING role.
6. (Illus.- I remember visiting with a couple several years ago after they had visited with our church. I began our conversation by asking the husband what he did for a living. I don’t remember what he said, but he told me where he worked. I then turned to his wife and asked, “Do you work outside the home?” I’ll never forget what she said, she said, “No, I’m JUST a homemaker!” I said, “Mam, I understand what you mean, but, mam, there is NO such thing as JUST a homemaker!”)
7. Being a homemaker is one of the most important and most demanding jobs that a woman can have.
8. By the way, it is also one of the most REWARDING jobs that a woman can have.

C. But someone asks, “What about my husband? If my role is to oversee the household, what is his role?”
1. When it comes to the family, his primary role is to earn a living for his family.
2. Do you remember what God told Adam?
3. He said, “In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground;” (Gen. 3:19)
4. In other words, “Adam, from now on, you are going to have to WORK HARD to provide bread for yourself and your family.”
5. And so, the husband’s primary role is not to oversee or manage the household, but rather to PROVIDE for the needs of his household.
6. Now this does not mean that he cannot help out from time to time (in fact, he should).
7. Listen fellows, when you come home after a hard day’s work, you are NOT THE ONLY ONE who is tired!
8. If your wife has been managing your household all day long, I’ll guarantee that she is just as tired as you, if not more tired.

D. And so, to be “a keeper at home” simply means to be an overseer or a manager of the household.

E. Now I want us to consider the

II. Motives For Working Outside The Home.

A. In other words, with all of the responsibilities involved with being the God- appointed overseer of her household, why in the world would a wife even think about taking on an additional job working outside the home?

B. There are at least three different reasons that come to mind.
1. Some women do it OUT OF NECESSITY (or because of a perceived necessity).
2. Let’s face it, sometimes catastrophic events take place in our lives that place a HUGE financial burden upon the family.
3. Dad loses his job.
4. Dad is in a car wreck and is permanently disabled.
5. Little Johnny becomes seriously ill and the medical bills begin piling up.
6. These catastrophic events, as well as others that I did not mention, can place a huge financial burden on the family.
7. Of course, that’s when we look to our extended family and our church family for help, but even that may not be enough to get us through.
8. I just know that there are a lot of wives and mothers who are working outside of the home, not because they want to, but because they feel like they have no other option.

C. For others, however, it IS a choice.
1. For example, some wives work outside the home because they desire a higher standard of living than their husbands alone can provide for them.
2. They want to live in a luxurious house, they want to drive new cars, they want to wear designer clothing.
3. They want to do their shopping at the mall rather than Wal Mart.
4. Now a lot of these wives will tell you that they work because they HAVE to work, however, if the truth were known, they COULD make it on their husband’s income alone.
5. No, they wouldn’t be able to enjoy the same standard of living that they are enjoying now, but their basic needs would be met.
6. And so, some wives work outside the home because they (and perhaps their husbands) desire a higher standard of living than one income can afford.

D. There is at least one more reason that some wives choose to work outside the home, and that is because of DISSATISFACTION.
1. While they may not admit it if you were to ask them, the truth is they are no longer satisfied with being a wife and a mother.
2. In other words, they no longer find it fulfilling.
3. Now please don’t misunderstand what I am saying.
4. I am not saying that wives and mothers should ONLY be wives and mothers and nothing else, however, if you cannot be happy, if you cannot find fulfillment in being a wife and a mother, you are NOT going to find it any where else.
5. And do you know why?
6. Because that is your God-given purpose in life!

E. Now this raises a question. Is it a…

III. Mistake For A Wife And Mother To Work Outside The Home?

A. Now I am not going to answer that question for you, because I want you to answer it FOR YOURSELF.
1. But before you do, I want you to answer some questions for me.
2. First of all, is it absolutely necessary?
3. As you know, Jesus was criticized by the Pharisees because He healed people on the Sabbath.
4. Do you remember how Jesus responded to this criticism?
5. He responded by asking them a question, “Which of you shall have an ass or an ox fallen into a pit, and will not straightway pull him out on the sabbath day?” (Luke 14:5)
6. In other words, when faced with an emergency, you do what you have to do.
7. But is it absolutely necessary that you work outside the home, or could you perhaps make it on one income by simply lowering your standard of living a bit?
8. Just something to consider.

B. Now if it is clearly not a necessity, answer another question for me.
1. Is the reason that you want to work outside the home the fact that you no longer find joy and fulfillment in being a wife and a mother?
2. If that is your motive, then you have a very serious spiritual problem that needs to be addressed before you make any life altering decisions.
3. Remember what I said earlier, if you cannot find fulfillment in being a wife and a mother, then you won’t find it doing anything else.

C. Now if that is clearly not your motive, answer one more question for me.
1. Will working outside the home result in your household or your children being neglected?
2. (Illus.- In the past, when I have preached on this subject, there is usually at least one wife who will come to me and say, “Pastor, what about the “virtuous woman” that Solomon describes in Prov. 31? It says things like “She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar,” and “She considereth a field, and buyeth it,” and “…with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.” There’s NO WAY that a woman could do all of these things and never leave home!)
3. That’s true, a wife and a mother could not possibly do all of those things and never leave home.
4. However, Solomon also said about this woman that “she looketh well to the ways of her household.” (Vrs. 27)
5. In other words, in all of her goings and comings, she makes absolutely sure that her household and her children are not neglected.


A. Is it a mistake for a wife and a mother to work outside the home?
1. I will let you answer that question for yourself.
2. Just remember that when you stand before Christ one day, you will have to explain to Him why you answered that question the way you did.
3. Also remember that there is a lot at stake here, and you only get one life to one, one opportunity to be the wife and mother that God would have you to be.
4. Please don’t blow it!

B. Perhaps I am speaking to someone who is not saved.